You're not waiting on them.
You're waiting on you.
You know at this point, you can't control them.
You've tried everything — being the bigger person, communicating differently, and you're still stuck. It's time to switch the focus from what they do to what you have control over.
You can't get back the energy you spend on them.
Most coparenting content keeps your focus on them, keeping them in the center of your story. You deserve to the main character in your story.
"Has the story you've been holding onto serving you or keeping you stuck?"
- Your triggers are a check engine light — information, not a character flaw.
- What you do for yourself, you do for your kids. Every time.
- Immediacy is the enemy. You get to slow down and respond instead of react.
- You are more than just a coparent. You are a whole person — and it's time to start living like it.
I've been coparenting for over 11 years. I know what it actually feels like.
I'm Jay Skibbens — coparenting dad, coach, and the creator of the Skibbens Method. I was raised by a single mom. I'm the primary parent to my two boys — now 10 and 12 — and I've spent almost six years coaching over 1,000 coparents through a chapter of life that felt completely impossible. My own journey has included things that weren't in any roadmap I'd been given — including finding out, when my boys were young, that they weren't biologically mine. The next thing out of my mouth was: "But this doesn't change anything. I'm still their dad."
What I've learned is this: you don't need to fix your coparent to feel better. You need new tools, a new language, and the space to become who you're meant to be. I built the Skibbens Method because I needed it. Now I teach it.
For Coparents
Three ways to work together.
The 7-Day Reset
Seven days to stop reacting and start redirecting. We work on your nervous system, your story, and where your energy is actually going — so you can start moving toward the life you want.
Creators
Twelve weeks of live group coaching built around the Skibbens Method. Creators is a transformative space that focuses on you and what you need. You're the one who's been carrying the bulk of the emotional weight, and t's time you had somewhere that actually sees that — sees you — and teaches you how to do something about it.
Apply to Join CreatorsGrounded Deep Dive
A private, one-time coaching intensive for coparents who are ready to move from insight into grounded, executable action. If you already understand what's not working — but feel stuck deciding what to do next — this session is designed to help you orient, decide, and move forward with confidence.
Book Your Deep Dive SessionFor Professionals
Let's work together.
Professional Collaboration Consultation
If you work with coparents — as a therapist, attorney, mediator, or in any professional capacity — I'd love to connect. Whether that looks like workshop facilitation, shared client resources, or a referral relationship, let's start with a real conversation about what might make sense.
Let's figure it out.
Take a few minutes and fill out this application. I'll get a better understanding of where you're at in your coparenting journey, and together, we'll decide the best way for us to start working together.
You don't have to do this alone.
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